Stop Looking Back

03/23/2014 20:21

Philippians 3:13-14

King James Version (KJV)

13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,

14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

This past December, I passed the 3rd year anniversary of my friend's death.  I felt I handled it well.  During the past years it was difficult.  I cried, go into a slump, and kept moving.  So the holiday's past and I was cool...or so I thought. Valentine's Day hit and I was in a funk. I was angry, stagnate, and frustrated. Why?  I didn't know. 

One day I spoke to one of my friends about my dilemma.  She asked me what was wrong.  I explained how I felt.  In my opinion, life seemed to be fine.  Life was lovely.  I wasn't particularly satisfied with everything, but not enough to be this low. She then asked me about my friend M&M.  It hit me. He was gone...again.  In my time of need I was somewhat still waiting and hoping that someone else would fix it.

Grief is very real, but if notcareful very hindering.  It's at these times one must make a conscious decision to move forward and not continuously looking back.  Don't get me wrong, it is normal to grieve the people that have passed on in our lives.  Yet, there are times that it can be a handicap.  I found myself just stopping.  Not wanting to be bothered with anyone or anything.  I kept looking back. Looking back for a long period of time is very dangerous.  We find that situation with Lot's wife:

Genesis 19:17

King James Version (KJV)

17 And it came to pass, when they had brought them forth abroad, that he said, Escape for thy life; look not behind thee, neither stay thou in all the plain; escape to the mountain, lest thou be consumed.

 Genesis 19:26

King James Version (KJV)

26 But his wife looked
back from behind him, and she became a pillar of salt.

How many times we look back and become stuck and salty, (pun intended).  What is back there that is worth wasted time and energy.  There are so many new things to see, do, and accomplish.  The only thing we should look back on is the goodness of God and great memories, not regret.  I lost ground with my life looking back and not fulfilling what God has called me to do. Regret sinks in. Tears. Depression.  Who really has time for that?  There are so many great things to do!!!

I submit that if life has dealt a hand that you felt was unfair, tragic, etc. my advice is to do what David did:

2 Samuel 12:18-23

King James Version (KJV)

18 And it came to pass on the seventh day, that the child died. And the servants of David feared to tell him that the child was dead: for they said, Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spake unto him, and he would not hearken unto our voice: how will he then vex himself, if we tell him that the child is dead?

19 But when David saw that his servants whispered, David perceived that the child was dead: therefore David said unto his servants, Is the child dead? And they said, He is dead.

20 Then David arose from the earth, and washed, and anointed himself, and changed his apparel, and came into the house of the Lord, and worshipped: then he came to his own house; and when he required, they set bread before him, and he did eat.

21 Then said his servants unto him, What thing is this that thou hast done? thou didst fast and weep for the child, while it was alive; but when the child was dead, thou didst rise and eat bread.

22 And he said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether God will be gracious to me, that the child may live?

23 But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.

I do have my regrets, but me living back there will not change anything.  Get up, get dressed, worshipped the Lord............AND PLEASE  MOVE FORWARD!!!

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03/24/2014 16:27
Thank you sooooo much!!!  May God continue to bless you!!


03/24/2014 16:26
I really like your blog, keep up the good work.  God bless you. Sherrilyn