As a woman who has been celibate for 10, 12 (yrs)...heck I lost count. It is definitely an Achilles heel for men once they find out. Most say they can't wait until marriage because they need to know what they are getting. I say that's an excuse because what if you give in and you don't perform to their standard. ..are they going to dump you and move on? I believe it's all about maturity and if a person can truly control their flesh.